| | | | | have an affair of your own. That way both |
| Have you ever found out that a friend or relative | | | | partners are back on even footing, right? |
| is being cheated on? | | | | Taking this step is something that can't be taken |
| Almost overwhelming, your first impulse is to | | | | back. Not everyone will have this reaction and |
| think that the person being cheated on doesn't | | | | not everyone will go out and even the score. |
| know what is going on. | | | | But for anyone considering doing this, are you |
| For anyone who believes they are in a happy, | | | | absolutely sure you spouse has crossed the line |
| securing, trusting relationship, it can be very hard | | | | and cheated on you? |
| to imaging yourself in the same situation with a | | | | If you give in this knee-jerk reaction and actually |
| cheating partner. No one wants to believe that | | | | cheat yourself, you had better be sure that you |
| infidelity problems can happen to them. | | | | know beyond a doubt what has really happened. |
| Then one day you wake up and your worst | | | | Only you can decide if you can live with the fall |
| nightmare becomes reality. | | | | out of a retaliatory affair. After the fact, you |
| The doubt tends to creep up on you gradually. | | | | are going to have a lot of feelings to process. |
| You may notice eye contact between your | | | | Just because your spouse cheated on you, does |
| spouse and someone else or you may catch onto | | | | it make it right for you to cheat too? How are |
| half truths or outright lies. Whatever the | | | | you going to feel while you are actually cheating? |
| situation, things just don't add up and you become | | | | What will you do if you feel guilty about seeking |
| suspicious that your spouse is cheating on you. | | | | out your own affair? Is this one of those things |
| Your confidence in your spouse is shaken and | | | | that you are going to live to regret? |
| your marriage is in jeopardy. | | | | Just be sure you take a step back and think |
| Usually it comes as a complete shock that | | | | about what you are doing before you do it. |
| infidelity has struck your marriage. Most people | | | | For some people, there will be no guilt at all and |
| in this situation want revenge and sometimes | | | | they will feel it was the right thing to do. Some |
| choose to have an affair of their own to get | | | | people may feel the relationship is already over or |
| even. | | | | maybe just won't care if it causes even more |
| The feelings of anger and betrayal are sometimes | | | | damage to the relationship. Some people will use |
| so strong that it can lead you to make rash | | | | retaliation to deliberately open up a whole new set |
| decisions. No one wants to be seen as a victim | | | | of issues as a way to permanently end the |
| in this kind of situation. | | | | relationship. Only you can decide what your best |
| Marriage is a commitment. We make vows to | | | | options are. |
| be faithful to another person and most people | | | | Ask yourself: "Just because your spouse is |
| don't take those vows lightly. | | | | cheating on you, is it ok to have your own affair |
| It can be shocking when your partner throws | | | | just to retaliate?" At the end of the day, how will |
| those vows aside and has an affair. You might | | | | your life after the affair change? |
| reason that it is ok to get even and set out to | | | | |